Friday, February 3, 2012

Can you help? Reality check.

Ok..I'm having a really hard time with something - not fertility related and I need a reality check from my online friends.

It's possible I may be over reacting...

How would you feel if your friends were all trying to get one over on you...

So two of my friends were joking around on email and decided to plan a party at my house and not tell me..it's kind of funny. Anyway the one friend did tell me and we all had a laugh and the party is now planned.

But since then, people in the group have been trying to "get me" by sending me an im saying "OMG do you know how many people so and so invited to your house!" and teasing me about what I am going to serve all of these people..and then my husband forwards me an email thread which is miles long with all of these people talking about me freaking out and getting worked up...which until now I have not been..I was going along with the teasing.

Now though I feel really hurt and really bad. It feels like I am being left out and picked on and it feels really mean spirited..

Lately though with everything that's happened I have been more sensitive than usual but is that the case here? How would you feel if your group of friends were doing this to you?

6 comments:

Mrs. Misfits said...

I hate surprises. It's the fastest way for me to chop heads. I would say that the joke has gone on too long. I would feel that it is definitely no longer funny. I'd find a polite way to let them know that it's old by now and wearing you out. Especially if there is email going on behind your back where you can feel even more left out and laughed at. Laughing with is always welcome. What a stinker of a situation that should really be about fun, for you and them.

Katie said...

I completely agree with Mrs. Misfits - find a way to end it as politely as possible. I would probably flip my shit if that happened to me. I HATE surprises, and even more, I hate being the butt of other people's jokes.

If you feel like you can't say anything, could your husband?

bunny said...

I'd be hurt and offended. I'm sure it isn't meant to be unkind, but no-one likes finding out that other people have been laughing about the idea of them being upset. You're definitely not just being sensitive. I hope this doesn't ruin the party for you, but yeah, maybe you can at least ask your husband to get everyone to cut it out!

Sandy said...

I absolutely agree with the others. I also HATE Suprises! It sounds like you are acting way more gracious than I would be!

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Jen said...

Just stopping by to say that I hope you are doing ok because you haven't posted anything in 2 months. My thoughts are with you.